[1] However, military brats who become soldiers also tend to do well overall in the profession. Forgive, move on and live life the best way you know how, as a loving, supportive spouse. Feelings… Talking about feelings… glad you share the same sentiment. I’m not saying that I’ve been able to kick this demon to the curb; it’s a constant battle of mine. 3) I don’t get your ungrateful bitch comment but then again, you didn’t get the humor inherent in this post. Cause I’m old enough to be their mother. Truscott (1989), p. 107. Robert, if she works for the best interest of her family, seeking to fashion their characters after the divine Model. I had calculated the time he had been gone one year, and sent him a message (he was on a month long TDY, sending me a message of his next 6 week TDY, with just a week in between), that “Had I known you’d be gone 3/4 of our time, I’d never would have dated you! Officers have cleaner, more elaborate recreational facilities than their enlisted counterparts. I've already tried the whole writing the negatives in a journal and the positives in letters to him. Do not sit here and talk about this life as if you know it, because you know nothing about it. At least, I am. Yes! You can be a good supportive wife and still mourn for what you may have given up without being a “bitch” Some of your comments reek of bitterness and hate but you are pointing a finger at the writer…. Many of our husbands know what we have sacrificed and they do feel guilt if we vent them and the last thing any of us want is to make our spouses feel bad we just need a place to let these feeling out so they don’t grow into resentment. "[89], Linguistic reclamation is the appropriation of a pejorative epithet by its target, to turn an insult into a positive term and deny others the ability to define it;[90] non-military personnel may find the term brat insulting if they do not understand the context. Fact is that I have thought all of those things at one time or another…normally when I’m irritated about something but I don’t actually mean them (well except the PLEASE never get out of the military thing because frankly, civilian life terrifies me lol!) Then we quickly fell into a routine together. I’ll settle for saying I can tell that you love your husband, are proud of him, supportive of him, and I respect that you are so real with yourself (and him, as I’m sure he reads your posts ;P ). Well, maybe. Finally, don’t hold the fact that your husband’s in the military against him, when he tries to be a parent to your kids. Thank you for reading. My husband was already well into his career when we met. [34] The consequences of misbehavior for a military brat are generally greater than for civilian children. We love our husbands, we want a life with them. [62] The student is forced to join classes that have already begun. [12], Although neither a clearly negative or positive trait, studies also show that many adult military brats report difficulty settling down in one geographic location and also report a desire to move (relocate) every few years; many adult military brats call this "the itch". My demon was winning and thankfully my support system and my husband grabbed me by the hand and forced me to face this problem. Do you have any family or friends you can lean on at all? I think your husband lacks a bit of empathy as he doesn’t want to understand your situation. No reason to leave rude comments. "Adult 'Brats' Wander: Military Lifestyle Becomes Ingrained. Hubs became a lot more understanding since we’ve been on shore and he’s gotten to spend time alone with our little girl. With the increased demands on the U.S. military, reservists have been called to active duty. To understand resentment, I looked to dictionary.com to find a definition, which writes “the feeling of displeasure or indignation at some act, remark, person, etc.